Is there a Tinder for friends?

An OKCupid for finding people who like you, that you like back. A place where sex is secondary, some possible distant outcome. A place where everyone has zero interest in finding a significant other, but total commitment in finding significant people. I’m thinking swipe right to mean “I’d like to hang out with you”. Facebook… Continue reading Is there a Tinder for friends?

“It is not death that a man should fear, but never beginning to live.” No shit!

I hate FIMO inducing quotes. This, dear Marcus, is so scary. I must miss a button or something, because I just can’t begin to live. I can’t. I am alive, hence I am living. And I fear death because it is so unreasonable. I think we should all fear death. We should. Death sucks. You know… Continue reading “It is not death that a man should fear, but never beginning to live.” No shit!

Be Better: Don’t Be Hooked ™

“all humans are motivated to seek pleasure and avoid pain, to seek hope and avoid fear, and finally, to seek social acceptance and avoid rejection.” ― Nir Eyal, Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products First, ignore pleasure Pleasure is temporary. Pleasure comes to you without your effort of seeking it out. The only thing you have to… Continue reading Be Better: Don’t Be Hooked ™

Inspiration is a myth

The thing about inspiration is: it doesn’t exist on its own! It all starts with wishful thinking: Hope and action together result in Wishful Thinking All inspirational messages are wishful thinking made of hope and action. “Everything happens for a reason!”, … means: let’s hope there is a reason that will justify our self indulging actions. “Life is… Continue reading Inspiration is a myth

Be predictable

The problem with market research is that consumers don’t think how they feel. They don’t say what they think and don’t do what they say — David Ogilvy. This one insight about market research is in fact the gist of personal development. Actually, if you think about it, striving to be an ideal consumer could very well turn… Continue reading Be predictable

Happiness = Reality — Expectations?

This is the formula of happiness. No go be happy! Just kidding … (a rebooted response) It is exactly this line of thinking that, in my opinion, underpins unhappiness, said Alex Schiff in an article. But it does sound believable right? Happiness = Reality — Expectations. After all we’re our biggest enemies in the race to happy-land. Isn’t it… Continue reading Happiness = Reality — Expectations?

When Sun and Rain compromise, the result is Rainbow.

How to compromise without diminishing yourself? I don’t know exactly, but think about it … Mediocrity comes from middle and height. A human reaching on mediocrity is shortening its stature. Not height, that’d be a horror movie. Stature. We bow to become more average. That is the great work of relationships. How to function independently, how… Continue reading When Sun and Rain compromise, the result is Rainbow.

Six reverse advice

1. Before you believe — learn how to prayBelief is a permanent state rooted in prayer. The other way around, if the prayer is rooted in belief, you’re only playing a trick on life, a way of cheating the experience by removing yourself from it, by proclaiming your divine ancestry and complaining about the temptation of the… Continue reading Six reverse advice

Don’t change the man in the mirror, change the world in my eyes

Science advances one funeral at a time, said Max Planck. This is a greater truth than it first appears: if you want to change the world, start early. If you are some teenager browsing Medium and find this article by a remote chance and you feel the drive to make this planet better or drive humanity… Continue reading Don’t change the man in the mirror, change the world in my eyes

How to handle time

“Life’s but a walking shadow, a poor playerThat struts and frets his hour upon the stage,And then is heard no more. It is a taleTold by an idiot, full of sound and fury,Signifying nothing.” Macbeth, W. S. Live in the present. Think of the future. Learn from the past. We humans do not have monolithic existences.… Continue reading How to handle time

Emotional algorithm

You have three horses: a white horse, a dark horse and a unicorn. The white horse jumps the highest. It waits for you and never runs without the right command. The white horse always keeps the proper attire. When you are riding the white horse all the doors open in your path. The dark horse is fast,… Continue reading Emotional algorithm

Painfully aware

Death is the one, single, great enemy I have. Nothing is more important to me than death. I have a limited timespan for existing. I will randomly meet the end of my timespan. This timespan might be shorter than I can possibly imagine. I’m not talking about accidents. I am talking about the genetically predetermined… Continue reading Painfully aware

There are two ways of living; one is giving meaning to life and the other is giving meaning to death.

We need to believe. We need to feel like death is not the end. but, the reality is it might very well be. Not the end in general, the end of you, whatever you are. I wish my mind will somehow preserve itself after death. I wish the hardly built personality made of so many lessons learned,… Continue reading There are two ways of living; one is giving meaning to life and the other is giving meaning to death.

Money do bring happiness, and 15 other truths

Dear human, — Here is the gist: You can be anything, but you will become just something. You can want everything, but you can’t do everything. You can be anything, but you can’t be everything. You can know it all, but you can’t experience it all. — Also, it helps if you know that: Money do… Continue reading Money do bring happiness, and 15 other truths

How to be happy

Happiness is so darn particular. Happiness is when you do the right thing, at the right time, in the right place, with the right people etc etc etc. We could discuss what happiness means for ages. That is not because the subject is complex, but because it is so subjective, that means everyone has their… Continue reading How to be happy

Reinventing the wheel might be the best thing you can do

Reinventing the wheel is bad for society, but awesome for you. 3, 2, 1 GO! 20 websites that will make you smarter14 articles that will raise your self esteem91 podcasts about success4 billionaires sharing their success stories1 story on how I did it45 places to see and 45 ways to be Read more books. Read more… Continue reading Reinventing the wheel might be the best thing you can do

4 directions to strive for in life

Strive for health instead of money. Strive for time instead of achievements. Strive for people instead of things. Strive for relationships instead of networking. Because the things on the left side will make you a healthy, free, kind and loved human while the things on the right will make you rich, accomplished, wealthy and known… Continue reading 4 directions to strive for in life

3 simple components of living

The experience of life, living, has three main components: pleasure joy happiness. Happiness is a goal, joy is a consequence and pleasure is an effect. You have to achieve happiness, joy is determined by collaborating factors and you may obtain pleasure. The natural state in life is the opposite of the experience: If you don’t… Continue reading 3 simple components of living