If personal laissez faire and Facebook don’t reveal much about who you are: monitor your envy.
You are those who you envy. You are the things you envy others for.
Everything you envy is something that describes you. And everything you envy is at arms length, its just your actions separating you from those things, the Holly Grails others have.
There’s an action for everything you could ever desire. Envy her boobs, there’s an action for that. Envy his car, there’s an action for that.