# Here is how to be your best self

- Link: https://www.andreidraganescu.info/2016/07/18/here-is-how-to-be-your-best-self/
- Published: 2016-07-18T08:21:41+03:00
- Author: Andrei Draganescu

This time in lyrics and more.

Control yourself but never
Deny yourself.

Loose yourself but
Protect yourself.

Apply yourself don’t
Do it yourself.

Touch yourself but
Keep it to yourself.

Grab yourself and
Save yourself.

Be yourself but
Suit yourself.

Work with yourself to
Express yourself.

Contain yourself but don’t
Kick yourself.

Top yourself but don’t
Fuck yourself.

Validate yourself but don’t
Praise yourself.

Push yourself then
Treat yourself.

Help yourself to
Love yourself.

Hi [umair haque](https://medium.com/@umairh), somehow my feed gave me your article
right after I posted the playful poem above. I responded because I think _we do 
have a best self_, although, indeed, it’s not what “pop-therapeutic culture” preaches.

A person’s best self is a notion talking about individualization. The best self 
is the answer to the quest to know thyself! Your best self is that one which has
those keys to all knowledge, including the Universe and the Gods.

_“Compassion, justice, wisdom, creativity, kindness, humility, gratitude” are personal
attributes, actions, states, choices, personality traits, they have nothing to do
with the self._

I don’t know why people are so eager to move beyond their self even before they’re
able to know what it is. I find no virtue in selflessness on its own. Selflessness
is a waste, unless it is paired with something that has meaning: selfless action,
selfless love, selfless experience, and even then, it is a dangerous path to step
on: most of the selfless people are the prey of manipulators because of the void
that remains when the self is shooed away.

Selflessness is not the opposite of selfishness! Generosity is the opposite of selfishness.
Selflessness is the opposite of egocentrism, but egocentrism is not a bad thing.
Egoism is a bad thing, and the antithetic action to it is altruism.

Egocentrism is a state that helps the human find itself. We are born dumb and with
only small traces of archetypal and ancestral cellular memory. We require years 
and years of attention to “remember” who and what we are, and this is done with 
a kind of focus on and grooming of _the ego_. The ego is your unique and particular
manifestation, it is the separation.

One should not hope to achieve the communion we’re so desperate about, the communion
with humanity, the communion with the universe, the communion with our own awareness
if you will, without embracing the principle of separation first! I like the original
Vedic story of Brahman who is sleeping and dreaming of itself. The same idea is 
found in the Yetsirah world of the Kabalistic universes, where the arrow of existence
points to itself, a marvelous allusion to how _our mind only and only gets itself
and nothing else_.

Everything we believe, think or perceive is mediated by our previous “selves”, and
that is why it is of groundbreaking importance to know thyself. And when you do,
you integrate all those layers upon layers of experiences and interpretation into
one single ordered and contiguous unique entity which is **your best self**. You
cannot know thyself without being egocentric.

Selflessness is a bad teaching in a world already filled with empty humans.